How do you recognise potential matches

Hey lovely people. Isn't today beautiful? Well, I have been waiting to witness the India playing against English. Today, in Rajkot, India will play their third T20I against England. The hosts will be ready to surprise visitors by giving them a tough challenge. Now, I missed the previous two games but I am excited about this one. In fact, I have even bought the subscription of Hotstar and JioCinema. I couldn't save anything but I still managed to purchase subscriptions of these applications. These days, you can never be sure. 

By the way, at this point, I have every digital service premium subscription. You name it. YouTube Premium, LinkedIn Premium, Tinder, Bumble, Jeevansaathi, Shaadi, Netflix, PrimeVideo. Anyway, I don't get any time to engage in these activities. I mean, most of the time is spent in office and when I get bored, I do try to chill but the mind can only handle so much at a time. We are bombarded with so much information. Any single application alone is more than enough to quench our thirst for acquiring knowledge. 

Different people use digital devices tfor different reasons. In 2009, Cryptocurrency was introduced and dark web penetrated into society. Today, many myths exist around this so called dark web. It's a hotspot for illegal activities and many people are caught because they use it like any other thing. Today, we must strive to reduce digital footprints because whatever we do online is available with big tech companies like Google. Not only Google, but every app that you have installed on your phone uses your data to influence your decisions. 

Today, I am going to shed more light on the dating scams and various apps that Indians are familiar with. So, I have encountered so many things and I have tried to share about so many of them with you so that you can stay protected. But, a lot remains hidden and I will try to figure things out. In dating apps like Bumble and Tinder, 70% of profiles of girls are fake. These profiles are created by boys looking to entrap unsuspecting young men into revealing their secrets. The men are 82% and so, we can say that there are only genuine 18% girls against 82% boys. 

These apps don't scrutinize profiles. The algorithms are designed to earn money and not help people get desired matches. Frustrated with these apps, men like myself are resorting to violent measures like indulging in consuming liquor and smoking incessantly. I mean, what would you feel like when you lose everything? You are already an adult and you haven't interacted with any girl once in your life. You never had the opportunity to do so and you are confined within the 4 walls of your home. Even so, you realise that you aren't special since you haven't accomplished anything significant. 

When you understand the real world, you feel like crap. There are many more individuals who must be in this situation. If I look at my situation, I graduated from a mediocre engineering college in Punjab. Now, most students managed to clear the exams. However, many struggled like me to get a job. I did get a job but that job paid me peanuts. Somehow, I got into IT as a technical help desk agent and started working rigorously to earn money. Then, two years passed by, and I couldn't figure out much. Today, people from all walks of life ask me about my journey. I tell them, that I am nothing. They still show interest. I could sense that young people want to know about my life journey. Somehow, I don't connect with them and prefer my own companionship. 

I mean, I think I don't know how to deal with people. I did try to read some things and found out that everyone's intersted in themselves. Use people's names and blah blah. But, the thing is, I never could use it in real world scenarious. The anxiety rakes over and I just deal with the situation in a very natural way. Then, I think, that I am a loser and everything is finished. Then, I think about my native town. I watch stuff on Netflix and get motivated. Motivation is a state of mind and not something that you are born with. 

Now, let's understand things properly. People today are complaining of things. They are not able to focus. I myself have been waiting for the perfect time. 2 years passed by in lockdown. The other 2 years passed by and I didn't understand a thing. So, in total, 8 years vanished( 4 years of engineering and 4 years in working and passing time). I kept talking to myself and spent time playing cricket with myself and spending time with my pet dog in fields. 

I look around myself and start asking. What did I do wrong? I never had the opportunity to settle. I kept moving. So, is that an issue? Near my area, most people are into defence. In fact, there is this old women whose son is in Indian Air Force and he's married to an officer in Indian Air Force. They have a kid who once used to play cricket with me and my younger brother. Now, I know, that with the technology that's in use these days, revealing these things isn't safe. But, I believe that we all have a story and letting it out allows us to process our emotions. I mean, we all feel less. We all want to accomplish more. We look at other people and think about achieving those things. That old lady is herself retired from a school and getting pension. The land where she is living was once ours. Our ancestors gave it all away. Besides our own house, there is this big building by Patial's. These people have built this amazing building on our land. And then, there are other houses too that have been built on our land. 

And, the irony is that my father is still thinking about operating a business in this area. You might be laughing. Yeah, to my surprise, even I couldn't understand it. People are afraid that no one would buy a handkerchief from them yet freely selling land. If my father would have asked me about it, I would have denied. But then, I remember, there was this old piece of land of grandfather that Mama and their family was interested in buying. This happened a few years back. I was mature enough at this point. So, we had taken home loan to build home and to pay off the bank interest, I suggested you sell it off for 1 lakh. My father did it and mother started yelling and things again deteriorated. So, who knows why anything happens? (At one point, I was the one who thought that why my parents sold land to build home), and then I was the one who suggested my father to sell land to pay bank loan. Things work mysteriously. Humans operate on a different level altogether these days. 

After years of evolution, human mind has achieved this ability to think logically, independently and clearly. Human mind wants to achieve big results in short period of time. Today, everything is accessible online. You can get food in 20 minutes. Medicines and grocery are available. Online appointment are available. Tickets can be booked online. Literally, anything you can think about, is available online. Kids are immersed in the world of PUBG and COD and deriving pleasure by talking to girls in their schools and colleges. Whoever is not able to either find any interest in games or hookup, is getting affected by mental health issues like anxiety and depression.

Now, there's no way to become better without discarding bad habits. Things you do repeatedly with conviction become habits. If someone keeps smoking, they will get addicted. If someone keeps watching entertaining short videos on YouTube and Instagram, they will get addicted to it. Humans have become expert in satisfying their mind. Men are addicted to watching porn and other explicit content. It's easy to listen to an audiobook than to actually read a book. I can recall an incident. I was waiting to board the bus to my home, in Maharana Pratap ISBT Kashmiri Gate, Delhi. A person who was selling Non-Fiction books approached me and a fashionable yet innocent young lady. Now, I saw one book about Bharat written by S. Jaishankar and expressed interest. That person quoted the price of the book to be 250. Now, I have been trying to save money. I also had to pay 7500 to a transporter to move my bike and other items from Delhi to home. That also reduced my savings. Earlier, I had sold my items. This time, I decided to take everything along with me. See, if you move anywhere in India, and are going by flight, you can take 15 kg luggage bag and 7 kg handbad. My parents told me that you can literally carry everything. I don't think so. I left behind an air cooler, wooden almirah, bed, blankets, warm clothes, shoes, and utensils. I had bought a gas stove and a cylinder that had to be left behind. So, when you move to a different place, you lose things. 

Given the situations I had encountered earlier, I didn't pay any attention to this matter. I mean, who cares about money when you want a girlfriend right? Forget about the fact that young minds are studying in Karol Bagh and Delhi to become administrative officers. Just look at how dirty river Yamuna is and how great and crooked the people living in Delhi are. How stealing and crimes are happening almost everyday in Delhi. I used to think like that. Instead of becoming clever and ruthless, I kept criticizing people for everything. Why is India so much populated? Why are people of UP and Bihar so clever? Similar things. 

Anyway, if you want to focus, don't drink caffeine in the morning and start exercising early in the morning. Drink water. These things aren't hidden. It's basic stuff. Intermittent fasting and all are all modern day concepts. The basic rule is the same. Anything takes time to become a habit. When you wake up in the morning, drink one bottle water. Meditate, and excercise. Don't use mobile phones. Even when you are going to sleep, don't use mobile. Early in the day, accomplish tasks that are significant and demand more attention. You will set the momentum. Everything will be in your favour. And practise delayed gratification by doing things that provide long term benefits. If you choose to learn a new skill, upskill yourself, exercise regularly, eat home made food, then you will build good habits. If you choose to eat fast food, drink alcohol and smoke, stay up late at nights, you will ingrain bad habits. So, don't look for shortcuts because anything that takes time provides you with big results. 

What you get so easily, you don't realise its value. I am working on it and trying to understand these things myself. My philosophy so far has been simple. Based on the recent life events, I have started to trust ancient Hinduism and Sanatan Dharma even more. What's not in BhagavadGita. Everything's written. I am not spiritually inclined and all into these kinds of stuff, but given the fact that I am getting somewhere, I am definitely going to recommend it to you. I mean, God has provided with answers to all your questions in the battlefield of Kurukshetra. Such is the land of India. 

Today, idiots are thinking of moving to Canada. So many Punjabis are doing this. Selling land and moving abroad. Influential politicians and wealthy bureaucrats are sending their kids off to foreign countries for whatever reason. And then, we have the rankings. Indian institutes and universities are not even in the top 100. Despite being such a large country, Indians are getting the tagline that animals here are better than Indians. Indians are adopting western culture and Americans are reading our scriptures and trying to manipulate us Indians. Russians are believing in Indians, giving us everything possible. Indians are believing in China and America. People are using American FB, Instagram, Netflix, WhatsApp, Google, data they have collected is enormous and humongous. 

I must, say, whatever you people come across online, on any platform, be careful. I have suffered losses and couldn't do anything. I was assuming that the person in front of me is real and genuine. The reality is hidden. How do you know that the person you are talking with on LinkedIn is HR of a company? How do you know that the person you are speaking to in PUBG is telling you the truth, I have tried trusting these people and paid the price for it. There is 1930 Hotline for reporting cybercrimes but you couldn't do much because you are made to believe that you are the culprit. You can't trust these things much. So, I am just going to contain myself to acquiring knowledge by reading newspapers and articles on LinkedIn. Pursue my passion and hobbies. Watch cricket, despite the fact that America banned Hotstar. Indians should use these American technologies. In fact, the ads I might use in future in this website will be sponsored by Google and as you might be aware, this website itself in built using Google's platforms. Majority of Indian creators use YouTube and get excited by watching content available on Netflix, it's all American. What if I tell you, that Americans eat beef, Americans call you idiots. Back then, I was in Delhi. I visited consulates of various countries. Every Country's consulate was empty, not even a single soul. I reached out to my relative in Germany, who earlier was in Bahrain, and expresed interest in moving abroad. I was told about some account and something which I couldn't comprehend. Outside America's embassy in India's capital, Indians thronged the site. It was an amazing site. I mean, the people were just hoping to get their visas and immigration officials involved did have a job at their hand. I mean, the ties between India and America need to get better given the interest Indians are taking in moving abroad to America. Any my friends, there's nothing shocking with this data. As time progresses, we will only see more of big things happening. Whether it is emerging of new startups and businesses, or people becoming billionaries, and businesses going bankrupt, the cycle will keep moving. In ancient Indian scriptures, it's clearly written that people will eat people's bodies and everything will be cooked. People will crave lust and nothing else and everything will be available on roads and streets. We are seeing much of that happening in reality today, and webseries and movies are imaginations of creators that are leading us to the future today.